Why do we talk about confidence so much at Designed Life Studio? Because you have all the reasons in the world why you shouldn't be lacking any.
Here is your confidence tip for the day.
First, you need to remember that it is perfectly normal for anyone to doubt and feel less than confident. It happens to everyone.
You've probably heard me say, "Write it down!" over and over, right? Well, that's because it's an important part of the process. So when was the last time you took a moment to actually write down all of your accomplishments and skills and expertise? You know, give yourself a little recognition and praise.
You've got what it takes
You have a longgg list. I promise you. Take a step back and actually write down all that you've accomplished so far, your skills, your expertise, and what you bring to the table.
So often we do not give ourselves credit for just how far we've come, all that we've accomplished, and the unique skills and expertise...
When it comes to confidence, there are lots of easy things to boost yours. This tip might surprise you though...
Be more you!
What does that even mean? You need to be more authentic and let more of who you really are shine through. Are you fun and funny? What would that side of you look like at work?
The more you that shows up at work, the more confident you will feel, even if you see yourself as someone who isn't that confident.
Hear me out.
When you're someone else...
We all have people we look up to or even people we wish we could be more like. At work, it could be a supervisor or even a coworker with lots of success. We want what they've got so we go directly to copying their style and way of doing things.
Yes, maybe there are systems and practices that you have to follow and do a certain way, but if you are trying to just model and be more like them, it's exhausting and you might not even have the success they have because you aren't being who...
I have a confession to make: I’ve kept myself stuck a lot, partly because I am very stubborn and partly because I'm very prideful.
Back when I was trying to make a career change, I didn't reach out and ask for help. I also didn't realize how much working with a coach could have helped me, but I didn’t even know that that was an option.
Even worse, I assumed that since I had already gotten to where I needed to be, I could get myself to the next step too. I did it by myself before. I can do it again.
You have a goal in your heart.
You know that goal.
You’re telling yourself you don’t have clarity on that goal so you're stuck in research mode now. You keep researching, thinking, and waiting for the right answer.
I am here to tell you to trust that goal on your heart.
If you feel like you need to make a shift, make a shift.
If you feel like you need to start something new, start something new.
Do it! You have the answer. Stop...
You’ve heard the phrase, “I’m my own worst enemy” or, “I’m my biggest critic”. How true is that for you?
Now, I’m not saying that critique and holding yourself to a high standard is always a bad thing, but if your inner critic has no grace and a standard of perfectionism, then you need to find a new critic!
What does all this have to do with soft and hard skills? I’m glad you asked… ;)
Talking yourself out of an opportunity
Has there ever been a leadership position at your work or in a group you’re in but you’ve listened to that inner critic tell you that you don’t have what it takes?
If your answer is "yes", STOP IT.
Generally speaking, most women won’t apply for a job or ask for the next step if they feel like they don't meet 100% of the qualifications. Whereas most men who don’t meet 100% of the qualifications will still apply or take the next steps.
Hear me out:
A little reminder for all of my overachievers out there: you are qualified!
Did you just start a new role? Has it been less than six months and you’re in that uncomfortable position where you don’t know exactly what you’re doing and you don’t feel super helpful? Yes, that is a normal feeling.
You are so used to crushing it, you aren’t allowing yourself to be new. Maybe you’ve just started a new side business or you're making a shift or you are stepping into a new company.
Remember, when you step into something new, its just that, it’s new! Which means you’re allowed to be new and time time to learn it. It doesn’t happen overnight. Give yourself grace!
Here is what to do when you've "tried it all."
Almost all of my clients (and I) are high-achievers. And I find it so funny that because since we are high-achievers, we are also extreme researchers. A lot of us are analysts at heart.
When we set our minds to something we really dive in and research all the things.
When we're talking through a problem, we say, “I've read all the things. I know what I need to do.”
But sometimes (or often) it doesn’t work as we expect and we get stuck. It’s very frustrating because we’ve already done all of the analysis and planning and so we don’t know where to turn.
You've already tried everything, right?
When this happens we need to take a step back and get to the root of the goal/program. If it's not working, what else can you try?
The main problem is that we can get so stuck in research mode, what other people are doing, and we think it should work for us too. We need to remember it is not a...
There it is again... that fear of “what if”. Or worse, that voice in your head that’s telling you you can’t do it and you shouldn’t even have the role you’re currently in.
This, my friends, is what we call imposter syndrome. It’s fear at its finest and it’s what’s holding you back from that next big goal.
Do you find yourself listening to these voices? Do you feel paralyzed by doubt and perfectionism? No matter who you are, I’m betting that you’ve experienced this at least a handful of times in your life, if not more.
Here’s a secret… EVERYBODY experiences these fears and doubts. It’s pretty normal. You hit a point and you're like, What if this isn't meant to be? This is when imposter syndrome kicks in and you start second-guessing everything that got you here.
Why It Happens
This happens whenever we begin to define our worth by our title or whatever goal we’re trying...
Five Books to Read When Start Your Side Business (or bringing your creative idea to life)
Click play on the video above to hear why these five books are game-changers when starting your side business. Of course there are other amazing reads depending on your interests, but these are my top faves!
Links for all of the books are below.
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Girl on Fire: How to Choose Yourself, Burn the Rule Book, and Blaze Your Own Trail in Life and Business
Link - https://amzn.to/35EdsSt
She Means Business: Turn Your Ideas into Reality and Become a Wildly Successful Entrepreneur
Link - https://amzn.to/3gKTb2R
How to be a Bawse: A Guide to Conquering Life
Link - https://amzn.to/3gJtJvW
Everything is Figuroutable
Link - https://amzn.to/3vL6o0Z
Building your perfect work cocktail
Remind yourself that you can do both -- create the perfect work cocktail
It doesn’t have to be a drastic shift or change.
Tips to take action today:
Journal it out - braindump your ideas
Take one tinyyyy step. Ask yourself:
1. What do I miss doing/want to add?
2. What is one small step I can take toward adding that in this week?
If you feel like something is missing take a step back, ask yourself these questions, then start creating your perfect work cocktail.
The full fulfillment picture looks different for everyone.
Design and blend it up your way.
You can design a life you love.
What do I miss doing, what can I add, that would make me feel more fulfilled?