When it comes to confidence, there are lots of easy things to boost yours. This tip might surprise you though...
Be more you!
What does that even mean? You need to be more authentic and let more of who you really are shine through. Are you fun and funny? What would that side of you look like at work?
The more you that shows up at work, the more confident you will feel, even if you see yourself as someone who isn't that confident.
Hear me out.
When you're someone else...
We all have people we look up to or even people we wish we could be more like. At work, it could be a supervisor or even a coworker with lots of success. We want what they've got so we go directly to copying their style and way of doing things.
Yes, maybe there are systems and practices that you have to follow and do a certain way, but if you are trying to just model and be more like them, it's exhausting and you might not even have the success they have because you aren't being who...
We all experience overwhelm at some point. It's easy to fall into and it can happen in any area of our lives. But don't worry, there are definitely ways to manage and even prevent it.
This is one of my top tips to help you feel more prepared and less overwhelmed for your days. It may come off as obvious, but so many things that work best are common sense things that we don't apply regularly. So here it is, if you're wanting to have more control or feel more prepared for your days...
Look at your calendar the night before.
Do you have a daily planner? If not, I highly recommend you get one. *shameless plug* Designed Life Studio has a three-month daily planner. There are a ton of great planners out there, but I've designed this one after years of planning and not having just the right one for me. I might be a tad biased, but I know you'll love it too! :)
So you need to look at your planner or calendar the night before so that you can plan your day. You...
Sometimes we get really motivated when we start to plan out our lives and set goals. Whether that's eating healthy, hitting the gym, or staying on a consistent reading plan, it's easy to start out super motivated but find it harder and harder to continue with a habit the longer we go.
So how do we stay consistent?
One major factor in sticking with a habit to achieve your goal is whether it's really your goal or not. How do you discern between the two?
Write it down!
Writing down your goals can be a powerful exercise, especially if you keep some kind of score. As you write out the different ideas you have for your goals and how to achieve them, really pay attention to how it feels adding it to your list.
If there is something on your list that you're not very excited for then it could be that it's actually a "should goal". A "should goal" or a goal is something that someone else expects of you or you expected yourself, but you're not really into it...
I have a confession to make: I’ve kept myself stuck a lot, partly because I am very stubborn and partly because I'm very prideful.
Back when I was trying to make a career change, I didn't reach out and ask for help. I also didn't realize how much working with a coach could have helped me, but I didn’t even know that that was an option.
Even worse, I assumed that since I had already gotten to where I needed to be, I could get myself to the next step too. I did it by myself before. I can do it again.
You have a goal in your heart.
You know that goal.
You’re telling yourself you don’t have clarify on that goal so you're stuck in research mode now. You keep researching, thinking, and waiting for the right answer.
I am here to tell you to trust that goal on your heart.
If you feel like you need to make a shift, make a shift.
If you feel like you need to start something new, start something new.
Do it! You have the answer. Stop...
You’ve heard the phrase, “I’m my own worst enemy” or, “I’m my biggest critic”. How true is that for you?
Now, I’m not saying that critique and holding yourself to a high standard is always a bad thing, but if your inner critic has no grace and a standard of perfectionism, then you need to find a new critic!
What does all this have to do with soft and hard skills? I’m glad you asked… ;)
Talking yourself out of an opportunity
Has there ever been a leadership position at your work or in a group you’re in but you’ve listened to that inner critic tell you that you don’t have what it takes?
If your answer is "yes", STOP IT.
Generally speaking, most women won’t apply for a job or ask for the next step if they feel like they don't meet 100% of the qualifications. Whereas most men who don’t meet 100% of the qualifications will still apply or take the next steps.
Hear me out:
Here is what to do when you've "tried it all."
Almost all of my clients (and I) are high-achievers. And I find it so funny that because since we are high-achievers, we are also extreme researchers. A lot of us are analysts at heart.
When we set our minds to something we really dive in and research all the things.
When we're talking through a problem, we say, “I've read all the things. I know what I need to do.”
But sometimes (or often) it doesn’t work as we expect and we get stuck. It’s very frustrating because we’ve already done all of the analysis and planning and so we don’t know where to turn.
You've already tried everything, right?
When this happens we need to take a step back and get to the root of the goal/program. If it's not working, what else can you try?
The main problem is that we can get so stuck in research mode, what other people are doing, and we think it should work for us too. We need to remember it is not a...
Do you find yourself overthinking and overanalyzing a lot? If you’re doubting yourself, I’ve got something for you that will instantly boost your confidence. Your…
BOOK OF PROOF.
I’m sure you’re thinking, what in the world is a book of proof!? It’s a list, journal, or literal book that proves you’re right where you’re supposed to be! Sounds really good, right? A whole book affirming your current role or next steps.
You are right where you’re supposed to be
There are so many things you've already accomplished and experienced that make you qualified to be where you are. My friend, you are right where you are supposed to be, but those doubts pop up, especially if you are starting something new.
Are doubts getting in your way right now?
Think about and list out all of your past experiences that prove why you are meant to be here.
You're not an imposter. You're not faking it. You have worked for this.
You know what you want
You have an idea big or small, whether it's a career change, starting a business, or simply doing something new/different. But you’re paralyzed by the “what if” and figuring out “all the things” before actually taking any steps forward.
A lot of times we look for that validation, that permission for someone else to say, “That's a good idea. You should do that.”
So, if you're looking for that, I am here to tell you, yes it is a good idea. (But you don't need validation/permission from me.)
Pause and take a break. Crazy things happen when you do this.
You get more clarity on your ideas when you slow down. More clarity and less overthinking leads to more confidence. This also helps you stop thinking about how everyone else is doing things, their ideas, and truly give you space to focus on, and stop doubting, yourself and your ideas.
You do not need all of the answers right away....
Three tips to help you communicate more confidently and feel more prepared for work meetings.
Here's a little backstory. I was sitting down today to film the Designed Life Studio Membership content for next month - every month, I do a training and a worksheet for all the ladies in membership to help you achieve your work and life goals.
The current topic is How to Sound and Communicate More Confidently at Work. Because the struggle is real, right? Can you relate?
Anyway, I always like to provide a training and worksheet on the monthly topics, but I also love to share other/outside useful tips and resources in order to help you even more with your goals. When I came across a great podcast for this topic, I decided I had to share it (and the tips) with you too!
The podcast is from another executive coach, Muriel Wilkins. Her podcast is called Coaching for Real Leaders. In this specific episode, she shared three tips to help you feel more confident and prepared at work....
There it is again... that fear of “what if”. Or worse, that voice in your head that’s telling you you can’t do it and you shouldn’t even have the role you’re currently in.
This, my friends, is what we call imposter syndrome. It’s fear at its finest and it’s what’s holding you back from that next big goal.
Do you find yourself listening to these voices? Do you feel paralyzed by doubt and perfectionism? No matter who you are, I’m betting that you’ve experienced this at least a handful of times in your life, if not more.
Here’s a secret… EVERYBODY experiences these fears and doubts. It’s pretty normal. You hit a point and you're like, What if this isn't meant to be? This is when imposter syndrome kicks in and you start second-guessing everything that got you here.
Why It Happens
This happens whenever we begin to define our worth by our title or whatever goal we’re trying...