You’ve heard the phrase, “I’m my own worst enemy” or, “I’m my biggest critic”. How true is that for you?
Now, I’m not saying that critique and holding yourself to a high standard is always a bad thing, but if your inner critic has no grace and a standard of perfectionism, then you need to find a new critic!
What does all this have to do with soft and hard skills? I’m glad you asked… ;)
Talking yourself out of an opportunity
Has there ever been a leadership position at your work or in a group you’re in but you’ve listened to that inner critic tell you that you don’t have what it takes?
If your answer is "yes", STOP IT.
Generally speaking, most women won’t apply for a job or ask for the next step if they feel like they don't meet 100% of the qualifications. Whereas most men who don’t meet 100% of the qualifications will still apply or take the next steps.
Hear me out:
Do you find yourself overthinking and overanalyzing a lot? If you’re doubting yourself, I’ve got something for you that will instantly boost your confidence. Your…
BOOK OF PROOF.
I’m sure you’re thinking, what in the world is a book of proof!? It’s a list, journal, or literal book that proves you’re right where you’re supposed to be! Sounds really good, right? A whole book affirming your current role or next steps.
You are right where you’re supposed to be
There are so many things you've already accomplished and experienced that make you qualified to be where you are. My friend, you are right where you are supposed to be, but those doubts pop up, especially if you are starting something new.
Are doubts getting in your way right now?
Think about and list out all of your past experiences that prove why you are meant to be here.
You're not an imposter. You're not faking it. You have worked for this.
You know what you want
You have an idea big or small, whether it's a career change, starting a business, or simply doing something new/different. But you’re paralyzed by the “what if” and figuring out “all the things” before actually taking any steps forward.
A lot of times we look for that validation, that permission for someone else to say, “That's a good idea. You should do that.”
So, if you're looking for that, I am here to tell you, yes it is a good idea. (But you don't need validation/permission from me.)
Pause and take a break. Crazy things happen when you do this.
You get more clarity on your ideas when you slow down. More clarity and less overthinking leads to more confidence. This also helps you stop thinking about how everyone else is doing things, their ideas, and truly give you space to focus on, and stop doubting, yourself and your ideas.
You do not need all of the answers right away....
Five Books to Read When Start Your Side Business (or bringing your creative idea to life)
Click play on the video above to hear why these five books are game-changers when starting your side business. Of course there are other amazing reads depending on your interests, but these are my top faves!
Links for all of the books are below.
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Girl on Fire: How to Choose Yourself, Burn the Rule Book, and Blaze Your Own Trail in Life and Business
Link - https://amzn.to/35EdsSt
She Means Business: Turn Your Ideas into Reality and Become a Wildly Successful Entrepreneur
Link - https://amzn.to/3gKTb2R
How to be a Bawse: A Guide to Conquering Life
Link - https://amzn.to/3gJtJvW
Everything is Figuroutable
Link - https://amzn.to/3vL6o0Z
You might be feeling frustrated or just not as satisfied with your career right now. One reason many of us feel this way is because of our own lack of confidence at work.
So if you are feeling frustrated or lacking confidence, ask yourself, are you trying to do all of the things? Are you too afraid to admit or delegate something that you feel like you should know how to do, even though that pressure is coming from no one else but you?
Think about it this way. If you go to a doctor, you want to have a specialist treat you for a certain problem, right? You're not going to go to someone that's just like, yeah, I can kind of sort of treat that. I've done it once in the past. No!
If you really want that confidence there needs to be a mindset shift from thinking that you need to be able to do everything anyone asks you to or that you need to be able to do all the things with no help at all. That’s not going to get you the praise you want.
What You Should Do About...
What if switching jobs is not the answer to more fulfillment?
Sharing some key questions in this video to ask yourself if you are feeling stuck and looking for some more fulfillment.
Building your perfect work cocktail
Remind yourself that you can do both -- create the perfect work cocktail
It doesn’t have to be a drastic shift or change.
Tips to take action today:
Journal it out - braindump your ideas
Take one tinyyyy step. Ask yourself:
1. What do I miss doing/want to add?
2. What is one small step I can take toward adding that in this week?
If you feel like something is missing take a step back, ask yourself these questions, then start creating your perfect work cocktail.
The full fulfillment picture looks different for everyone.
Design and blend it up your way.
You can design a life you love.
What do I miss doing, what can I add, that would make me feel more fulfilled?
Lesson/reminder for the week comes from the Netflix show Emily in Paris. Have you watched it yet?!
Here are the three unexpected lessons I picked up on while watching the show (and, of course, had to share with you too):
1. There is more to life than work.
2. Build a life you don't want to escape from (but also know there will be ups and downs along the way).
3. Step out of your comfort zone and take some risks -- you never know where that may lead you!
Have you found yourself saying "I'll be happy when..."?
Maybe waiting for the next big thing? I can say I've definitely said this before (on more than one occasion).
Take a listen to this week's vlog if you find yourself wishing and waiting for the next goal, achievement, person, or thing to come.