A little reminder for all of my overachievers out there: you are qualified!
Did you just start a new role? Has it been less than six months and you’re in that uncomfortable position where you don’t know exactly what you’re doing and you don’t feel super helpful? Yes, that is a normal feeling.
You are so used to crushing it, you aren’t allowing yourself to be new. Maybe you’ve just started a new side business or you're making a shift or you are stepping into a new company.
Remember, when you step into something new, its just that, it’s new! Which means you’re allowed to be new and time time to learn it. It doesn’t happen overnight. Give yourself grace!
Here is what to do when you've "tried it all."
Almost all of my clients (and I) are high-achievers. And I find it so funny that because since we are high-achievers, we are also extreme researchers. A lot of us are analysts at heart.
When we set our minds to something we really dive in and research all the things.
When we're talking through a problem, we say, “I've read all the things. I know what I need to do.”
But sometimes (or often) it doesn’t work as we expect and we get stuck. It’s very frustrating because we’ve already done all of the analysis and planning and so we don’t know where to turn.
You've already tried everything, right?
When this happens we need to take a step back and get to the root of the goal/program. If it's not working, what else can you try?
The main problem is that we can get so stuck in research mode, what other people are doing, and we think it should work for us too. We need to remember it is not a...
Do you find yourself overthinking and overanalyzing a lot? If you’re doubting yourself, I’ve got something for you that will instantly boost your confidence. Your…
BOOK OF PROOF.
I’m sure you’re thinking, what in the world is a book of proof!? It’s a list, journal, or literal book that proves you’re right where you’re supposed to be! Sounds really good, right? A whole book affirming your current role or next steps.
You are right where you’re supposed to be
There are so many things you've already accomplished and experienced that make you qualified to be where you are. My friend, you are right where you are supposed to be, but those doubts pop up, especially if you are starting something new.
Are doubts getting in your way right now?
Think about and list out all of your past experiences that prove why you are meant to be here.
You're not an imposter. You're not faking it. You have worked for this.
If you don’t already know, I help women design a career path (and life) that they actually enjoy. What’s that mean? Well, there is your current situation, what you actually want, and the action steps it takes to get there.
With every woman I coach, the very first thing we work on is getting clear on what they really want to do. There are three key elements to figuring this out.
This first step is figuring out what you actually like, if you don’t already know. What are your dreams, your goals, your aspirations, and what do you like doing?
This ties into your vision for life and your future. So don’t limit yourself, but take some time to think about what actually brings YOU joy and excitement. What are the activities you enjoy?
The next question we need to answer is, Who are YOU? Don’t forget to filter this through the first element of this, and make sure this really about you, and not expectations or...
You know what you want
You have an idea big or small, whether it's a career change, starting a business, or simply doing something new/different. But you’re paralyzed by the “what if” and figuring out “all the things” before actually taking any steps forward.
A lot of times we look for that validation, that permission for someone else to say, “That's a good idea. You should do that.”
So, if you're looking for that, I am here to tell you, yes it is a good idea. (But you don't need validation/permission from me.)
Pause and take a break. Crazy things happen when you do this.
You get more clarity on your ideas when you slow down. More clarity and less overthinking leads to more confidence. This also helps you stop thinking about how everyone else is doing things, their ideas, and truly give you space to focus on, and stop doubting, yourself and your ideas.
You do not need all of the answers right away....
Three tips to help you communicate more confidently and feel more prepared for work meetings.
Here's a little backstory. I was sitting down today to film the Designed Life Studio Membership content for next month - every month, I do a training and a worksheet for all the ladies in membership to help you achieve your work and life goals.
The current topic is How to Sound and Communicate More Confidently at Work. Because the struggle is real, right? Can you relate?
Anyway, I always like to provide a training and worksheet on the monthly topics, but I also love to share other/outside useful tips and resources in order to help you even more with your goals. When I came across a great podcast for this topic, I decided I had to share it (and the tips) with you too!
The podcast is from another executive coach, Muriel Wilkins. Her podcast is called Coaching for Real Leaders. In this specific episode, she shared three tips to help you feel more confident and prepared at work....
There it is again... that fear of “what if”. Or worse, that voice in your head that’s telling you you can’t do it and you shouldn’t even have the role you’re currently in.
This, my friends, is what we call imposter syndrome. It’s fear at its finest and it’s what’s holding you back from that next big goal.
Do you find yourself listening to these voices? Do you feel paralyzed by doubt and perfectionism? No matter who you are, I’m betting that you’ve experienced this at least a handful of times in your life, if not more.
Here’s a secret… EVERYBODY experiences these fears and doubts. It’s pretty normal. You hit a point and you're like, What if this isn't meant to be? This is when imposter syndrome kicks in and you start second-guessing everything that got you here.
Why It Happens
This happens whenever we begin to define our worth by our title or whatever goal we’re trying...
Five Books to Read When Start Your Side Business (or bringing your creative idea to life)
Click play on the video above to hear why these five books are game-changers when starting your side business. Of course there are other amazing reads depending on your interests, but these are my top faves!
Links for all of the books are below.
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Girl on Fire: How to Choose Yourself, Burn the Rule Book, and Blaze Your Own Trail in Life and Business
Link - https://amzn.to/35EdsSt
She Means Business: Turn Your Ideas into Reality and Become a Wildly Successful Entrepreneur
Link - https://amzn.to/3gKTb2R
How to be a Bawse: A Guide to Conquering Life
Link - https://amzn.to/3gJtJvW
Everything is Figuroutable
Link - https://amzn.to/3vL6o0Z
You might be feeling frustrated or just not as satisfied with your career right now. One reason many of us feel this way is because of our own lack of confidence at work.
So if you are feeling frustrated or lacking confidence, ask yourself, are you trying to do all of the things? Are you too afraid to admit or delegate something that you feel like you should know how to do, even though that pressure is coming from no one else but you?
Think about it this way. If you go to a doctor, you want to have a specialist treat you for a certain problem, right? You're not going to go to someone that's just like, yeah, I can kind of sort of treat that. I've done it once in the past. No!
If you really want that confidence there needs to be a mindset shift from thinking that you need to be able to do everything anyone asks you to or that you need to be able to do all the things with no help at all. That’s not going to get you the praise you want.
What You Should Do About...